Am I going to become one of those bitter people? This is the second Christmas without my Mom. My Dad is gone, and my Sister Angie is gone. I heard a song (Silver Bells) from my childhood the other day that brought me down - I burst into tears with longing of that time - the last Christmas we had as an intact family…… Oh it was so sad and I had such regret!!! I’m not into Christmas and just want it to be over/Me, It’s Just Me. More here.
Question: Does the Christmas holiday make you sad?
Phaedrus on December 22 at 5:08 p.m.
I love the Christmas season; the memories of Christmases long ago when the simple joys of childhood clouded the reality of the world, the more recent Christmases Past, when my children experienced the same uncontainable joy and the Christmas of today where I am grateful to be alive and to be loved.
My father is long gone, my sister, too. And my mother, for all intents and purposes, is no longer among us, but I dwell not on any of those sadnesses. There is time enough for that, but this is not that time.
Me, remember the past with sweet memories, enjoy today with those you love and regret not, for it changes nothing.
Merry Christmas.
markr on December 22 at 6:15 p.m.
That guy in the Get Out! column looks so familiar…hmm…
Me on December 22 at 7:47 p.m.
Thanks Phaed - that is really what I’m trying to do. I look forward to someday having grandchildren and then being able to really enjoy Christmas as I did when I was young and when my Son was.
I finished up my shopping and bought my Christmas dinner stuff tonight after work (prime rib) so I’m feeling better - and ready to enjoy. Just wish we had SNOW!
Cis on December 22 at 7:52 p.m.
I have always disliked Christmas…. I had to really fight it around my kids when they were young.(they said they never knew) It was is so commericalized. Maybe not having a lot of money, and hating my kids go back to school and hear of the great things that their classmates got for Christmas that they would never have. And all those years, my kids never ever complain about what they got or what they didn’t get. They were always appreciative. Then giving gifts and did you spend enough for your friend… I don’t know.. but it was kind of weird when the subject came up one time, with my brother, and we were in our 40’s… and he said to me… “wow, I thought I was the only one who felt like that.” I don’t remember ever having a bad Christmas with my folks. So don’t know where it comes from. And my friends know I want them to use their money for their own family, and if they really want to make me happy, please oh, please send only a card.
But at noon on Christmas day, I lighten up and enjoy the rest of the time with friends and family. Just hate the whole build up.
Cis on December 22 at 8:14 p.m.
Me….Phaedrus is right… Your family is still with you… they always will, and as you have grandchildren you will have the times like your parents did. Even now with friends and family..
You will be good to go when the time gets closer. Because you will remember all the good things you have. A home, family, food, a job… all the things we take for granted… So if you get a chance to sing the songs, sing them with the memories of the good Christmas past as well as the good Christmas’s of the future.
JeanieSpokane on December 22 at 10:37 p.m.
It is very difficult for me to get in the Christmas spirit this year - so much stuff going on in my life right now. I am looking forward to January 1 where I can Start-All-Over-Brand-New.
TennesseeFred on December 24 at 10:10 a.m.
I don’t celebrate Christmas at all at all. Good thing I finally figured out how to login here. I like to read The Slice by Paul Turner plus I wrote down the recipe for Strata. Mmmm.
Escapee on December 24 at 10:29 p.m.
I’m past Bitter. I almost don’t feel anything at all. That said, it was a refreshing change to hear Old Christmas Music, complete with references to shepherds, Baby Jesus, and Midnights Clear…