Three days before 20 year-old Adam Lanza killed his mother, then opened fire on a classroom full of Connecticut kindergartners, my 13-year old son Michael (name changed) missed his bus because he was wearing the wrong color pants.
“I can wear these pants,” he said, his tone increasingly belligerent, the black-hole pupils of his eyes swallowing the blue irises.
“They are navy blue,” I told him. “Your school’s dress code says black or khaki pants only.”
“They told me I could wear these,” he insisted. “You’re a stupid bitch. I can wear whatever pants I want to. This is America. I have rights!”
“You can’t wear whatever pants you want to,” I said, my tone affable, reasonable. “And you definitely cannot call me a stupid bitch. You’re grounded from electronics for the rest of the day. Now get in the car, and I will take you to school.”
I live with a son who is mentally ill. I love my son. But he terrifies me. Full story.
A colleague posted this on his Facebook wall this weekend and Sis shared it on the Weekend Wild Card. It was originally published on The Anarchist Soccer Mom blog. It's perhaps the most compelling thing I've read in the wake of Friday's tragedy. Please read the entire article and then answer this: What can be done to rectify the abysmal state of mental health care in America? What can be done to help mothers like the one above?