Posts tagged: bullies
Trustee Tom Hamilton of the Coeur d'Alene School Board gave a speech RE: bullies to the Kootenai County Republican Women's luncheon and received a standing ovation yesterday:
Knowing (bully expert Stephen Wessler's) background and focus, I will admit that I was a skeptic. I assumed that he would come in speaking of human rights and tolerance, boiling our problem down to intolerant kids with intolerant parents. However, he addressed our Board Monday night and he moved me. I doubt there is much that Steve and I would agree on politically, religiously or maybe philosophically. I don't know that for certain because Steve refuses to address it. It simply doesn't matter. What is remarkable to me about what he said is that our bullying problem is not about beliefs but about behavior. He said that we don't have to agree on things where we can't find agreement, but we do have to learn to treat each other with dignity and respect. Sounds a lot like the “old” tolerance to me. That is when it struck me. Dignity and respect is what is missing from our conversation. More here. (Photo: Duane Rasmussen)
Councilwoman Deanna Goodlander: “I find your analogy of reality tv for a City Council meeting is apt, however, I feel that the lack of respect shown for a staff member is inappropriate at best. I am not sure that our City Council meetings should be sensation seeking reality tv. Dan Gookin was correct last night when he said that our council is split which mirrors a community that is split. Bullying behavior from some council members is now the norm at City Hall, and we see the results in a staff that is under a great deal of stress. It is difficult at best to function under that type of leadership. I believe that our past successes show that we have had an efficient, quality driven, entreprenuerial management structure that is now at risk. When people are threatened, they put their heads down and just try to survive, That creats a typical government environment, I would like to think that we fostered an different culture at City Hall and our successes have shown that difference.”
Question: “Bullying behavior from some council members is now the norm at City Hall.” Thoughts?
Deborah Glasscock, a Nampa therapist, relates her own story of being bullied as a child in the Idaho Press Tribune and then points out that we're taking the wrong approach to stopping bullism: “So why do I bring up this story that is still painful today, over 40 years later? Because I see today an approach towards bullying that is both misguided and dangerous. Walking into a local middle school, I saw a “No Bullying” sign, followed by a list of protected categories: race, religion, sexual orientation, gender, etc. Whew, I thought. At least they didn’t have my vulnerabilities at the time of bullying listed: thick glasses, short, awkward, opinionated, teacher’s pet, etc. What a horror that would be! Pointing out the vulnerabilities of those bullied serves only to “blame the victim,” increasing the intrinsic shame that the bullied already bear. This approach is misguided.” More here. (AP file illustration of bullies)
Question: Were you ever bullied in school?