There's a famous 1993 cartoon from The New Yorker magazine.
A businessman is sitting behind a desk, holding a phone to his head.
He says… “No, Thursday's out. How about never — is never good for you?”
Few would be quite that direct. But there's another line that many people actually do employ when scheduling a non-urgent lunch, meeting or whatever. The question is when can you start to use it?
Perhaps you have heard it: “Why don't we plan on getting together after the holidays?”
It is a proven time-management tool.
Maybe Nov. 2 is too early to say that. But soon that line will have credible resonance.
And the thing is, a lot of times it has nothing to do with not wanting to see someone. The truth is people will start getting extra-busy in the weeks to come. Delaying a get-together near the end of the year should not necessarily be considered an insult.
After all, some of us know how annoying it is to be around a self-dramatizing sort who revels in being overscheduled. We don't want to be that person. We don't want to engage in flitting, flouncing performance scurrying.
Besides, it's always nice to have a few things to look forward to in January.