Dear Carolyn: My husband’s family is bigoted and I don’t want to be around them. My husband’s parents were wonderful, intelligent, interesting people that I enjoyed visiting, but now that they are gone I don’t want to waste a minute of my life with his disrespectful, domineering and boring siblings and their children. They ignored and disrespected their father in his last years and they disregard me and my husband today. My husband wants to attend the family Christmas celebration on the Saturday before Christmas, and I feel it is a waste of my time and energy to pretend I care. The minute we walk in the door, the comments begin about politics (blacks, women, gays, etc.) and about how stupid we are for residing in a liberal major city.