Why Are ‘Friends’ So Hurtful?

We’ve all got them. In fact, we can’t live without their presence. They are our FRIENDS. Most of the time these people offer a comforting hand - a person to do things with, someone to count on. Yet these people can turn, overnight it would seem, into a hellish pain.

With that said, please let me digress (actually set up my grandiose point).

People often ask me why I’m so bitter. “Where’s the positive outlook?” they’ll ask. Well, I’ll tell you. My optimism and good cheer are in some ditch along a lonely highway in the middle of nowhere. It was dropped in there by the last friend who ditched me.

A slow deterioration can usually describe an ending friendship, with the two parties gradually growing apart. Rarely do friendships end in a flash of anger. Unfortunately I was the victim of such circumstances. For I had a friend one minute, a compatriot if you will, the next minute there was a college freshman full of hatred and animosity toward me.

I felt more guilt over “something” I had done than any self-respecting teenager ought to feel. Funny thing is, I still haven’t a clue as to the cause of the “heartless departure.” I asked him, I asked his friends, and I still received no straight answer.

So I ask you, why should people be so cruel to each other? Friendship is a good thing, a really great thing, yet when you open yourself up to someone and then they shove you down into the hard earth, it really makes you ponder the costs involved in any relationship.

No matter how “macho” or “manly” you are, chances are there is at least one person, a friend, who you care about.

Here is a piece of advice for those who wish to end a friendship: End it slowly and respectfully, because there is another set of feelings at stake.