A male friend of ours here at Common Ground posed this most interesting question to us the other day: “Where do you find evolving men in popular culture, men who are truly growing up in middle life, men who are maturing well?” He first reminded us that Alan Alda held that distinction for some women during the birth of women’s lib in the 1970s. It didn’t take us but a minute to answer: Craig T. Nelson of “Coach.” The reasons: He’s a guy’s guy, but he’s also trying hard to be a good husband and father. Plus, he’s got a terrific sense of humor.
That was our nomination, but we’re open to others. For the women: Which male in popular culture best represents the maturing middle-aged man? For the men: Which female? Looking forward to your answers.
Breakfast of champions: The YWCA Benefit Breakfast will be held March 28 at 7:30 a.m. at the Spokane Ag Trade Center. Margaret Saunders Ott is the benefit’s honorary chair and Roberta Greene is the mistress of ceremonies. Instead of a main speaker, the breakfast will focus on the personal stories of the women and children whose lives have been transformed by YWCA programs, such as the Alternatives to Domestic Violence. A minimum donation of $100 is suggested. For information, call 326-1190.
More Donna Reed: Helen Bowman of Spokane weighed in with her thoughts on why married men whose wives stay home make more than men whose wives work. “An executive who has his wife home has had a breakfast set before him each morning. Sent off knowing that (the wife) can handle kids, laundry, shopping, dry cleaners, his mind can get to work at the office.
“I had (thyroid) surgery recently and when I came to in recovery, the nurse said the doctor had been angry because he had to get his child from day care. Having your throat cut by an angry doctor is scary. Was it his duty to pick the child up instead of his wife’s? Or was he a single father? We are killing our men in their 40s now. Stress leads to heart attacks.”
Common Ground query: If Bob Dole picked his smart wife, Elizabeth Dole, as his running mate, would you vote for him?
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