There’s Evidence It Might Be So
There seems to be a human need, somewhere between the survival instinct and the sex drive, to believe that fate plays a part in our romances. That the gods conspire to assure that we will be standing on that street corner at that time on that day when that car will splash mud and that person will get out to apologize and, well, you know the rest. Here are tales from folks who are convinced that fate plays cupid.
Holly: “I met my husband four years ago on a blind date. No big deal; lots of people meet on blind dates. However, it wasn’t the blind date that was so extraordinary, it was the circumstances that led to the blind date. If I hadn’t met, married and divorced my first husband, I would have finished college right out of high school and would never have been enrolled in the B.A. program I was in. If I hadn’t enrolled at the time I did, I would never have met my classmate Cathy. If I hadn’t met Cathy, I couldn’t have accepted her invitation to accompany her and her husband when they visited their friends, Don and Deb. (Even though I felt like a fifth wheel.) If I never met Don and Deb, they never would have introduced me to the wonderful man I’m now married to.”
Bonnie: “I had been quite ill during childhood and my early college years, so I was taking school slowly. I tranferred to a new college and decided to take calculus again. The course my advisor chose was a combined calculus-physics course for engineers and science majors. This course changed my life. Every day this good-looking guy would come in and smile at me. We started talking. I needed help with my homework so we started studying together. Before long we were dating. I have always believed there had to be a reason why I was so ill my whole childhood and early adulthood. Yes, I would have loved to have had a normal, healthy childhood. but if I had to choose between never being ill and my boyfriend, the only choice would be my boyfriend. I consider him the reward for the years of pain and suffering. I would never have met him under normal circumstances.”
Susie: “In 1993, the guest conductor for our local grade school chorus festival backed out unexpectedly. We hired Patrick, who had been the director of my high school jazz band. I graduated college in 1982 with a degree in music education and was a music teacher in the elementary school where I grew up. The festival led to my chaperoning his choir’s trip to the Magic Kingdom in Florida. It was there that Patrick and I learned of our mutual love of herb gardens, vintage glassware and the dream of eating lunch at Cinderella’s Castle. Shortly after the trip, we had our first date and became engaged three months later. Had the conductor not backed out, we never would have been brought together.”
Mary Pat: “One evening after a softball game, my girlfriend and I sat down at a table full of guys. I sat next to Pat. (Fate.) A few weeks later, at a jam-packed bar, a guy started talking to my friends and reluctantly dragged our group over to his group and guess who was there? Pat. (Fate). We hit it off, but I could tell he wasn’t going to ask for my phone number. Something told me to give it to him. (Fate.) I’d never done that before. He called me three times to go out, but each time I couldn’t. My three strikes were up, but he called again. (Fate.) This time we made a date. And, his name is Pat and my name is Mary Pat. (Fate.) I truly believe that we were meant to be together. If we didn’t keep bumping into each other, I know Fate would have kept trying. We’ve been married eight years and have one daughter, we’re still crazy about each other.”
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