I Hear From The Dissatisfied
Dear Ann Landers: For years, I’ve been reading letters in your column from men who complain that their wives are “cold fish” and from women who are desperate because their husbands are selfish lovers and make no effort to satisfy them. Whenever I read those letters, I compose a response in my head. Today, I’m putting it on paper.
How sad that so many people equate sex with love. I was married for 35 years to a considerate, caring man. We had a wonderful love life. When he died, I never once grieved for the lack of sex, but I did long to be held in his arms at night and be comforted by his embrace.
Three years after my darling passed away, I met a loving, kind, gentle man. His wife had passed on, also. I never fantasized about sex with him, but I did love the feel of his arms around me and the wonderful sound of his voice. When he asked me to marry him, he told me he was impotent due to diabetes. I was only 56 at the time, so I did give some serious thought to what I would be missing. I decided that sex was not what I was longing for. What I wanted more than anything was someone to love me and be a partner in life.
We’ve been married for six years, and the best time for me is when I lie in his arms at night. How wonderful it is to see his face across the table, hear his strong voice as we work in the garden together or see his loving smile across a room.
Too bad the world is looking at lust and seeing it as love. No wonder there are so many unhappy people out there. I don’t believe we are the only two who feel this way. I’m sure we are one couple among many, so please sign my name - Legion
Dear Legion: Of course, you aren’t the only happily married couple around, but very few happily marrieds write to me. It’s the unfulfilled, disenchanted, disappointed and downright miserable who feel the need to unburden themselves.
You were fortunate to have found two fine men who were looking for love, not sex. Many women would settle for one.
Dear Ann Landers: Thanks for striking a blow for the average citizen against “moron judges.” Here’s more evidence for your crusade: Santa Clara County in California (San Jose area) sought to ban gun shows at the county fairgrounds. The county officials were concerned about someone getting hurt accidentally or otherwise.
U.S. District Court Judge James Ware issued a preliminary injunction against the county stating that such a ban infringes on the free speech rights of gun dealers. What do gun sales have to do with free speech, you ask? The judge’s “reasoning” was that a gun may not be sold in silence without any exchange of verbal communication, hence banning the gun shows is banning free speech.
The judge’s ridiculous contention can be applied to other situations, since drug sales, for example, involve some type of verbal communication or since the rapist may speak to his victim - the possibilities are endless. We are all placed in harm’s way by these morons. - M.H.
Dear M.H.: I agree wholeheartedly. Unfortunately, some of those morons are appointed for life, and there is no way we can get rid of them. We have a few in Chicago.
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