Young Families Can Do Better
Dear Ann Landers: I recently saw that adorable Disney movie, “101 Dalmatians.” Although it was delightful entertainment, I’m afraid it is going to do a lot of damage. Everyone who sees it will want to rush out and get a Dalmatian for his very own. As a veteran in the dog-acquiring field, my advice is - forget it.
Dalmatians are among the most difficult dogs to train because they are extremely stubborn, plus they shed bushel baskets of hair everywhere. A Dalmatian can (and will) chew through anything - an Army boot, a baseball bat, a rubber hose and your best leather jacket.
Never, and I mean never, get a Dalmatian because you think it would be an ideal pet for children. These dogs “play” rough and can easily knock down a 5-year-old. I read in an animal journal that about one Dalmatian in 10 is either deaf or very hard of hearing.
If you want a good pet for your child, go to the local pound or the Humane Society and get a mongrel. Sign me - Experienced to the Tune of $400 in N.Y.
Dear N.Y.: According to the American Kennel Club, Dalmatians are best suited to an active family with older children. They need lots of exercise along with time and energy.
The AKC recommends golden retrievers, Labradors, border terriers, Welsh Corgis and standard poodles for families with young children.
Dear Ann Landers: Since moving out of my parents’ home, I’ve always shared an apartment with a roommate. I work full-time on a night shift and don’t make enough money to live alone.
About six months ago, I got a new roommate. The first week “Nicole” lived here, her boyfriend stayed over every night. I thought maybe she was nervous in a new place, so I didn’t say anything, but the situation is getting worse.
Now “Gabe” not only spends every other night here, but he comes and goes even when Nicole isn’t home. Yesterday, after Nicole left for work, Gabe came by in the morning and hung around until late afternoon. He showered, changed his clothes, watched television and left before she came home.
Gabe’s a nice person, which makes me feel guilty for not wanting him around, but I need my privacy. One of the reasons I selected Nicole for a roommate was because she works days and I work nights. I assumed this would give us both breathing space. I didn’t count on Gabe lousing up the schedule.
Am I being unreasonable to expect this guy to spend less time here? If not, how do I tell Nicole without hurting anyone’s feelings? Please answer soon. I’m feeling - Crowded Out in New York
Dear Crowded Out: You are not being unreasonable. Be perfectly honest with Nicole, and let her know that the freeloading boyfriend has made the situation intolerable. Meanwhile, start looking for a new roommate or another apartment because that’s where this is heading. Good luck.
Dear Ann Landers: Thought you might enjoy this story and use it as a Gem: A white-haired man was walking from the country club when he noticed another man coming his way. “Oh, no,” he thought, “I’ve known him for years. In fact, we had lunch yesterday. But I can’t remember his name.”
When they met, he decided not to fake it and said, “I know we had lunch yesterday, but I can’t come up with your name.”
“How soon do you need to know?” the friend asked. - Bill in South Carolina