Lovemaking Tale Pushes The Envelope

Every now and then someone asks if the letters to “Tales” are made up. I always say, “Who would take the time to make up a phony story when there are so many real ones?” Well, now I wonder. Here’s a letter that recently arrived. Let me know what you think ….

Ron is 65, his wife Carol is 64. Fifteen years ago, when he was a robust 50-year-old (younger than Mick Jagger, Warren Beatty and Harrison Ford, young enough to be the son of Clint Eastwood and Frank Gifford), his wife (who was younger than Goldie Hawn, Farrah Fawcett and Sally Field and almost young enough to be the granddaughter of Joan Collins and Elizabeth Taylor), began to lose interest in sex.

“This was very disturbing because my sex drive is strong and has not diminished with age,” says Ron.

Three years after Carol’s sex drive began to diminish, it completely disappeared. Elvis has left the building. Last train to Clarksville. The last one out please turn off the lights.

It was not only the physical aspects of their lovemaking that Ron missed, but the “acceptance and response.” As a result, their marriage was “strained.”

About 10 years ago, Carol asked Ron, in a perfectly matter-of-fact pass-the-Centrum Silver kind of way, if he would like to have sex with their neighbor.

“I was shocked by the question and I said so,” says Ron.

Carol said that good neighbor Nancy, who was 52 then, had not had sex in eight years. Her husband was not interested.

“When he gave it up completely, she felt something was missing.”

Carol and Nancy had discussed their non-sex lives, one by choice, one by necessity. Wasn’t it ironic, here was Nancy who wanted sex and here was Ron who wanted sex and they were three mature adults. Why not …?

“They came up with what they felt was a solution for all concerned. My wife convinced me to let Nancy come over and to talk about this arrangement.”

You’ve got to figure, in the history of neighborly conversations, this had to be one of the most awkward.

“I was a nervous wreck,” says Ron.

But a trooper. After the discussion, he and Nancy went over to her house and they went to bed. “I was still so nervous, I nearly stopped before we got started. When we did start, I had a wonderful experience. When we finished, Nancy cried and told me how lonely she had been. She thanked me for what I had done and asked me when we could be together again. I have my own business and I told her to call when she was ready.”

When Ron got home, Carol didn’t ask any questions and Ron offered no details. This continued for five years. Ron says he and Nancy had “a wonderful relationship.” Then, five years ago, Nancy had a suggestion. She had a friend, Jackie, who was in the same place she had been in five years ago. Could Ron help out her friend as he had helped her?

“We agreed to discuss it and if it worked out we would tell no one else. Two years ago we made the same agreement when we added another of Nancy’s friends. We do not do kinky sex. I am with only one person at a time, and we are normal in every way. Two of these ladies have husbands who have no sexual interest, and the other is a widow who is not into the dating scene.

“I am now sexually active about three times a week and find it wonderful. I am in good physical condition, I walk three to four miles every morning. I love my wife beyond description and have never told her about the other ladies. She thinks Nancy is the only one, and they remain good friends.

“I have three grown children and five grandchildren. I am considered very square, and many people, including me, would find this arrangement unusual. I was raised to believe it was a sin to commit adultery, but I now question that.”