Pay Attention To Messages In These Dreams

Dear Nancy: I haven’t been able to get this extremely vivid dream out of my mind. My father died suddenly nearly two years ago and I really miss him. I’m a stay-at-home mother and feel isolated from my friends and family who live far away. We moved here six years ago and I haven’t made many friends. I’m lonely and the long winters are hard for me. - Cathy

I’m in a cafeteria where a few people are sitting and eating. Suddenly, I see my father. I’m surprised and say, “What are you doing here?” We hug and he replies, “I will be back.”

Dear Cathy: The veil between the worlds is thin and your dream is a wonderful example of this. I receive many “visitation” dreams, which are always extremely vivid and real to the dreamer. This is a sign that the dream is more than a normal dream experience.

When we’re asleep and our defenses are down, our departed loved ones contact us in our dreams. This is most likely to happen during the grieving process or later, when the dreamer is having some difficulty in life. Often, the message is one of comfort and assurance that the loved one is actually healthy and happy on the other side. At times they come back to give us needed direction, encouragement or support.

Your father’s message, “I will be back,” lets you know you are not alone. It may be a signal he will be available to you in upcoming dreams. You might want to ask your inner guides, God, your guardian angel (whatever is most comfortable) to bring your father to you in dreams.

Do you plan to have more children? If you believe in reincarnation, you might want to consider the possibility that your father may return in the form of a new child. Because of the strong ties between family members, it’s said we tend to be reborn into the same families lifetime after lifetime.

“Visitation” dreams are always special and it’s important to pay attention to the messages that come through them. Often our loved ones become our guardian angels.

Reader tips: Most of us will experience the death of a loved one during our lifetime. One thing is certain, we will dream about the people we have lost. Whether we believe these dreams are real “visitations” is not the issue. What’s important is that they bring us comfort and hope, direction and resolution.

A man who had not been feeling well dreamed his deceased brother told him to “get to the doctor or you’ll end up like me.”

A young woman was heartbroken over a breakup with her boyfriend. Her mother, who had passed on several years earlier, came to tell her, “Don’t worry, honey. You are going to marry your friend, Michael, who is perfect for you.”

Another woman’s mother said, “I’m really busy and happier that I have ever been!”

Love dreams: Did you have a dream about love or romance around Valentine’s Day? If so, send it to me!

This column is intended as entertainment. But psychologists who work with clients’ dreams say that dreams can hold a tremendous amount of significance; a particularly disturbing or repetitive dream may indicate the need to see a therapist.

, DataTimes MEMO: Nancy Huseby Bloom has studied dreams for 18 years. Dreams may be sent to her c/o The Spokesman-Review, P.O. Box 2160, Spokane, WA 99210-1615, or fax, (509) 459-5098. Please send a short summary of the circumstances in your life and include your name, address and phone number. Nancy conducts dream groups on a regular basis. For information, call 455-3450.

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