Don’t judge him on the dance floor
Q: Do a man’s dance moves mean good sex?
Steve: If so, then a lot of guys are really lousy lays. I always thought, as Betty Everett sang, that it’s in his kiss.
Mia: I’ve been out with plenty of guys who were duds on the dance floor and studs in the bedroom. A guy who can dance is just extra fun at parties!
Q: My husband will turn 40 this month (I’m 43), and we’ve planned a romantic weekend getaway without kids. He bought me a sexy outfit for the occasion, a black leather miniskirt and blazer, boots and fishnets. While I’m flattered he thinks I’m still sexy enough to wear this, I haven’t worn a miniskirt in years and never a leather one. Any advice? Why are men so turned on by women wearing leather?
Steve: Beats me. I’m a silk guy. Leather is fine for bucket seats and baseball mitts. I’m not sure if hubby expects you to wear that gear in public, but if you feel self-conscious, tell him you’ll play dress up in the hotel room. Then ride ‘em, cowgirl!
Mia: Why would you wear the outfit anywhere but the hotel room anyway? I think it’s sweet that he still wants you to dress up like a slut for him after all these years. You could even think of an outfit for him to wear! A construction worker or doctor’s scrubs perhaps? I’m into firefighter uniforms.
Q: There is this totally hot younger guy (he’s funny and nice too!) who often comes into my office. I’m a little confused about the vibes I feel coming from him. More than once, I’ve caught him staring, smiling and/or winking at me. I like when he looks at me with that intense stare, like we are the only two people in the room! Although we have a nice dialogue going, he seems as shy as I am. I’m a single mom and really don’t date. Should I wait for him to ask me out or should I ask him?
Mia: Go for it, girl! You’re single, you’re into him, what do you have to lose? Men love it when women are confident enough to make the first move.
Steve: That depends on the move. A polite offer of lunch shouldn’t scare him off.
Q: I have a dilemma. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years with someone I really love. We live together and life is good. My problem is that he does not know about some issues from my past. If he did, I fear he would dump me. When I was young I made some pretty bad choices. I would hate for him to find out from someone else. And I hate to think I am not truthful with him, but I don’t want to lose him either. Should I confess?
Mia: What kind of issues are we talking about? That you once tried pot? That you killed a man? Until I know what they are, it would be hard for me to advise you.
Steve: My general rule is that confessions are best left inside the confessional. Unless it’s something that could seriously disrupt your relationship (such as, the FBI still wants you for that 1971 Weather Underground bombing), I’d keep the skeletons in the closet.