Hints from Heloise

Dear Heloise: I am a mother and teacher and not a religious zealot. However, church is my last bastion of calm and quiet in a frantic, noisy world.

May I suggest the following ideas for teaching a child how to act in a place of worship?

•Introduce the child to the nursery as a baby so that he is comfortable there. Hint: When parents occasionally volunteer to help staff the nursery, both parents and children feel more secure there.

•At preschool age, bring the child to a seat in the back of the church for several minutes at a time. Bring one or two soft, quiet toys, such as a cloth book or stuffed animal. Take the child back to the nursery before she becomes tired of sitting still.

•Gradually, make it a “reward” to be allowed to remain longer if he is quiet and well-behaved.

•If you teach your child to be respectful and well-behaved, not only will your minister and congregation be grateful, you will be happier and proud. – A Reader from Pennsylvania