Dear Annie: I attended a wedding dinner at an upscale hotel. A table just outside the dining room was set up for wedding gifts. I left my present on that table like everyone else.
Weeks passed and I did not receive a thank-you note, so I began to wonder if the couple had received my gift. Sure enough, it had gotten lost and they never saw it. Am I obligated to buy another present? – Still Wondering in Alabama
Dear Alabama: You are not obligated to replace a gift that was lost through no fault of your own, although if you are particularly close to the family, you may wish to do so. This is why we strongly recommend that gifts be sent directly from the store to the home. That way, if anything is lost or missing, it can be traced and replaced by the store. Open display tables of gifts are not uncommon, but there is an unfortunate risk of theft or loss.
Dear Annie: I want to thank “A Doctor in California” for his statement that not everyone who uses pain medication is an addict. I particularly appreciated his sentence stating: “If it is prescribed by a physician and his condition monitored regularly for the purpose of improving function and maximizing potential, it is legal and beneficial.” He goes on to say if he can’t cure his patient, his next goal is to alleviate suffering.
I’ve suffered a chronic and debilitating pain condition for many years. I went through the whole gamut of natural remedies (massage, acupuncture, you name it), as well as over-the-counter painkillers. Too many of us are accused of being addicts because we need painkillers to have some quality of life. There is so much media blitz about addictions and, face it, so many abusers that it hurts those of us who truly need prescription assistance.
To hear from a doctor who understands what we face, both physically and socially, brought tears to my eyes. – A Chronic Pain Patient
Dear Patient: Many readers, and their families, were grateful that doctor wrote.