Tell boyfriend it’s time to move on

Dear Annie: My boyfriend, “Michael,” has been irritating me for the past month. He breaks his promises, goes back on his word, bosses me around like crazy and gets angry and aggressive about everything. He no longer seems fazed if we don’t get to hang out or talk on the phone at night. It appears he doesn’t care anymore, but he claims to be madly in love with me and insists his feelings haven’t changed.

I am a junior in high school, and as young as that may seem, I am in love with Michael. We’ve been together for more than a year, and I am confident we are a good match. But these small problems always end up becoming large ones. And it’s always my fault. Michael is a year older, so I assumed he would be more mature about our relationship. I am tired of fighting with him. The arguments are long, depressing and get us absolutely nowhere.

I’m too terrified to lose him, so I don’t want to break up. Talking only seems to make things worse. Do I keep praying and hoping he grows up, or should I walk away? – Young and In Love

Dear Young: Just because Michael is a year older doesn’t mean he is more mature. He also doesn’t sound ready for a permanent relationship, and his rotten behavior indicates he wants out. You already know this, but you are reluctant to accept it. You should never be “terrified” of breaking up with someone, especially if he isn’t treating you well. Believe this: You can do better. And you have plenty of time to work on it. Tell Michael you think it would be best if both of you had a chance to see what else is out there. We know it will be difficult at first, but we have great faith in your ability to turn this to your advantage.