Dear Annie: I have been married to my high-school sweetheart for three years, and we have a beautiful little girl. The “other person” in our relationship is his PlayStation 2.
My husband has played these annoying video games since I met him. He will tie up the TV all evening and doesn’t spend any time with his family.
We have discussed this problem several times, and he will stop for a while, but then start right back up again. We even purchased a second TV for him to play on, but it doesn’t change the amount of time he spends with the baby. How can I get him to stop? – Video Widow
Dear Video Widow: It’s time to put your foot down. Explain to your husband that he doesn’t seem to have the self-control to turn off the game as promised, so you want him to pick a specific period of time every day when you will unplug it. That will be your family time, and you expect him to honor it. We hope it helps.
Dear Annie: My son was recently married in a small, private ceremony. For some unknown reason, my mother did not want to attend, but eventually, she and my father decided to show up.
The entire time, my mother acted very rudely toward my son. We caught her lying, and she tried to blame my mother-in-law. A few days later, she falsely accused us all of various things.
My mother is spiteful and vindictive. Mom has always turned situations like these in her favor. The family will never hear my side of the story because I refuse to play this game.
So how does the truth come out? – Daughter of a Witch
Dear Daughter: We assume other family members are well aware of Mom’s personality flaws, and you shouldn’t feel you have to defend yourself to them. If they ask about the rift, you can tell them your version of events. It is also possible to forgive your mother while keeping your distance from her emotional abuse, and we recommend it.