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Annie’s Mailbox: Singles not OK sleeping on couch

Thu., Sept. 22, 2011

Dear Annie: “Cold in Michigan” said his family always makes him sleep on the sofa when the other relatives use the bedrooms. I understand his dilemma. Being a single 40-year-old woman, my family thinks the couch is OK for me. What they forget is I need privacy like any other normal adult.

Why should my teenage nieces or my younger brother and his girlfriend have more privacy than I do? I would like to lay out my clothes, toiletries, contact case, etc., and wake up on my time, not necessarily when the 4-year-old wants to watch “Thomas the Train” at 6 a.m.

Also, since I am in the living room, I am hostess from morning until night, and everyone else uses the space where I am expected to relax and sleep. So I started staying in local cottages. My family says I am a snob. I say I saved my sanity. – Black Sheep of N.H.

Dear Black Sheep: We agree that everyone needs privacy, but homes can only provide so much of it. You are smart to stay elsewhere. We would, too.

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045.

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