Annie’s Mailbox: Decide value of loveless marriage

Dear Annie: I have been married to “George” for 11 years. In the past two, George and I have had sex only three times. Lately, when I go to kiss him, he turns away.

I have asked George if there is someone else or if he has a medical issue, but he denies both. I’ve been told I am quite attractive, but he seems interested only in the financial stability I provide. I am so frustrated. The only thing keeping me here is that I am taking classes at a local college and am close to finishing.

I would like to save my marriage, but can’t do it by myself. Am I wasting my time? I don’t get the impression that George even likes me, let alone loves me. – Need an Outsider’s Insight

Dear Need: If George thinks he has a medical problem, he should be willing to see a doctor – and you should encourage him to do so. If he were having an affair or if he were gay, however, he might not tell you. Get some counseling and figure out whether it is worth staying in this loveless marriage.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Suffering Soon-to-Be Ex,” whose wife left him after he made the incredible blunder of saying he wished he’d found his wife’s sister first.

A few years ago, my co-worker made a huge mistake during a business conference call. The very next day, he wrote on the white board in his office, “Think fast. Talk slow.”

I thought you might want to pass this sage advice along to your readers. We were able to save the client. I hope “Soon” is as fortunate. – Slow Talker

Dear Slow: We hope so, too. Thanks for the excellent words to live by.