Dear Annie: I am 68 and have been dating “Ken,” age 71, for three years. We go out to dinner, movies and sporting events regularly. He’s very generous and kind. I know he takes a lot of medication, so I’ve never questioned what appears to be a lack of interest in sex.
Ken’s house is always neat. He told me he has a housekeeper who comes twice a month. She never comes when I’m there, and I had not even thought about her. However, his sister recently informed me that the housekeeper is Ken’s ex-wife.
I don’t want to cause any problems in what appears to be a close-knit family, so how should I handle this unexpected news? – Just Another Senior Moment
Dear Senior: It’s possible the ex-wife is only cleaning the bedroom, not using it, but still, it’s quite an unusual arrangement, and we think it deserves to be addressed. If you don’t want to implicate his sister, ask Ken when the housekeeper is due to come, as you’d like to meet the woman who keeps his home so neat. When he tells you it’s his ex-wife, ask him to explain his reasoning.