Annie’s Mailbox: Husband’s groping exasperates wife
Dear Annie: My husband, “George,” seems to feel the need to constantly grope me. I mean from the time I get up in the morning until he leaves for his overnight shift, he’s trying to grab my breasts or squeeze my bottom. He does this whether we’re at a movie theater, the museum or the zoo. He does it when we’re walking outside, when he’s driving and even if I’m trying to cook. If he’s not trying to grope me, he’s talking about sex. He does it in public, too, and even in front of my in-laws. It’s his favorite, actually his only, topic of conversation.
During the time we dated and for the first three years of our marriage, George and I had normal conversations about sports, politics, movies and books, but now it’s only sex, sex and more sex. Frankly, I can’t take much more of this. I’ve tried talking to him nicely about the constant groping, I’ve gotten angry, I’ve tried diplomacy, and I’ve redirected his hands. I’ve told him bluntly how insulting it is to be grabbed while we’re in a restaurant and how alarming it is when he talks about sex during a concert. But it goes in one ear and out the other. When I try to steer the conversation into other areas, he always brings it back to sex. For medical reasons, my sex drive isn’t what it used to be. I try to accommodate George, and we are intimate even when I’m not feeling well. George is 52 and in fairly good health. He isn’t on any medications, nor has he had any injuries that would account for this. I’m tired of the incessant groping and sex talk. How do I deal with this before I scream? – Married to an Octopus
Dear Married: Get your husband to a doctor for a complete checkup, including a neurological exam. George’s fixation on sex is making it difficult for his brain to focus on anything else. If he is unable to control himself in public or in front of his own parents, it could indicate a serious medical problem.