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A ‘touché’ for his strip club idea

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While I’m away, readers give the advice.

On the whole strip-club thing: An early conversation with my now-husband went something like this:

Me: “While you are going out with your mate to have fun at a strip club (no touching, no sex, just fun), I am going to go have fun too. I don’t want to go to a male strip club because I would find it entirely unappealing. Instead, my pal and I will go to XYX (nice bar), find funny, smart, great-looking guys with great-paying jobs and very nice cars – sporty I hope – and chat (no touching, no sex, just fun). Don’t worry, I’m coming back to you.”

Him: “Uh, no.”

I didn’t want to control him, or even necessarily have him agree with me. I just wanted him to understand – and care – how it would make me feel. He did. – L.

On feuding exes and major events:

It’s easy for someone on the outside to say they should get over it or set it aside for one day, but it takes some people time.

A friend of mine had feuding family whom she wanted at her wedding. They were both adamant that they would not attend if the other was there. Her solution was to have one at the ceremony only, and the other at the reception only. She also did separate things with each before the wedding (dinner the night before, and breakfast the day of). It wasn’t ideal, but she was able to enjoy her wedding day with her whole family, without major drama and without having to be a referee. – K.