Dear Annie: I’m getting married in two months. Yesterday, I received an invitation to my cousin’s bridal shower, which made me realize that none of my bridesmaids has bothered to ask if I would like one.
My maid of honor lives 16 hours away and is planning my bachelorette party. She can only make the trip for the weekend of the wedding. However, I have three other bridesmaids who live nearby. For one of them, I was the maid of honor and planned a shower. I am now left to purchase my own honeymoon lingerie and feel I am missing out on another celebration of this big step in my life.
I know it is rude to ask for a shower, and bringing up my disappointment will just cause unneeded drama. What can I do? – Disappointed in Mexico, Mo.
Dear Missouri: The point of a shower is to help a bride furnish her new home, and with so many couples living together before marriage, the events have become more inventive, but less necessary. As the bride, it is OK to ask your bridesmaids whether there will be a lingerie shower, so you can plan accordingly, but you may not demand that they have one.
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