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Annie’s Mailbox: Generosity faces with lack of thanks

Dear Annie: I consider myself a generous person. I never forget the birthdays of my children, grandchildren or friends. I bring casserole dishes to those who are sick or have lost a loved one.

Is it asking too much to get a simple thank you? I wouldn’t care whether it was by text message or email. Have we become so entitled that we can’t take a few minutes out of our busy lives to show gratitude?

I’d like to tell my family and friends that if they don’t get a check, gift or card from me in the future, it’s because they don’t seem appreciative. – Less Generous

Dear Less: Don’t tell us and hope they will see it. Tell them directly. Explain that without an acknowledgement of your gifts, you aren’t sure they are welcome or even that mailed items were received. If there is no word of thanks, you will assume in the future that they prefer not to get your cards, checks and casseroles.

Dear Annie: I just wanted to add my suggestion for “No Hallmark.” My 93-year-old mother recycles greeting cards into beautiful bookmarks. Many go to our local library. She loves to do this, and it keeps her busy. – Santa Cruz, Calif.

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 Third Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.