Dear Annie: I have been married to the love of my life for several years. I recently learned that over the past few months my husband has had numerous telephone conversations with a female acquaintance. I know this woman, too, although not very well.
I travel for work several times a month, and that’s when most of these conversations took place. My husband says they are “just friends,” that she’s young and looks to him for advice.
Do you think this could be a case of “where there’s smoke there’s fire”? What should I do? – Country Gal
Dear Gal: There may not be fire, but only because you stomped it out. Your husband is not being forthcoming when he says they are “just friends.” The fact that most of these calls took place when you were out of town indicates he was hiding them, which means he is not so innocent in his intentions. Nothing may have happened, but he didn’t discourage her attentions or make their contact transparent to you. Tell him the “friendship” is over, or it’s time to see a marriage counselor. Or an attorney.
Dear Annie: In raising our children, we always stressed proper etiquette and thought they knew how to behave. However, we recently had lunch with one of our adult sons in a restaurant. He continued to talk with food in his mouth, placing his other hand near his mouth.
What happened to the rule “never talk with your mouth full”? – Dismayed Parents
Dear Parents: We are going to assume your son witnessed someone doing this and decided it was appropriate. It is not. One should chew with one’s mouth closed. One should swallow food before opening one’s mouth to speak. If you can do both of those things, there is no reason to put your hand over your mouth and prevent people from seeing your lips and hearing your voice clearly. You have our permission to send this to your misinformed child.