March 9, 2013 in Features

Support brother, accept his decision

Kathy Mitchell
 

Dear Annie: My brother just got engaged. He and his girlfriend have two kids. Usually, this is a happy time for families, but eight months ago, my brother’s fiancee cheated on him. We weren’t sure the younger child was my brother’s, but he took a DNA test that proved she is his little girl.

At that time, my brother decided to keep his family together and work things out, which I greatly admire. But we just found out that his fiancee is talking, emailing and texting the guy she cheated with. My brother still wants the wedding to go on and would like the rest of us to mind our own business.

Annie, I really think this is a bad decision for my brother. Do I say something, or keep my mouth shut and plaster on a fake smile? – Love My Brother

Dear Love Your Brother: Say nothing more. Your brother knows how you feel, and he has asked you to accept his decision. He understands the consequences. We think he would greatly appreciate your support right now.

Dear Annie: This is for all those retirees who don’t know what to do with themselves.

A year ago, my health forced me into an early retirement. All of my co-workers and most of my friends lived far from my home. During my first week off, I heard of a yoga class at the local senior center. As a baby boomer, I thought I was too young to go to a “senior” center. But that one class has led to a group of retired educators, like me, who go bicycling twice a week in good weather and meet for lunch in the cold season.

I volunteer at the senior center, take painting classes at a local art center and meet lots of retired folks with similar interests. I have made some good friends, found a great traveling companion and have a lot of fun.

Please point early retirees to senior centers. Remember that you need to go somewhere at least half a dozen times before you begin to feel at home. – Retired and Busy


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