Dear Annie: Six months ago, I became involved with a man 20 years my senior. It has become evident that his ex-wife is still very much in the picture.
They divorced 30 years ago, when he found out she was cheating. He gave her the house and half of his earnings until their children were grown. Yet he still phones her and asks whether she needs anything. Those “needs” are usually financial, in spite of her cushy job and mortgage-free life.
What sent me over the edge was a recent visit to his mother’s house. I randomly picked up a family photo of his parents’ 50th anniversary party, and there she was – right in the center.
I have voiced my displeasure loud and clear: Either I am “it,” or I am out! He says she is family. What is a divorce exactly if people are going to exchange gifts and phone calls and show up at family functions? – Too Little, Too Late
Dear Too Little: Every divorced couple is different. Many remain friendly with each other. Those who have children together have a lifelong bond, no matter how old the kids are. The in-laws may still consider the ex to be part of the family and so invite her to all of their functions. That is their business, not yours. While giving her money is not necessary, your boyfriend is not going to stop contacting his ex simply because you don’t like it. If you cannot deal with that, better to get out now.
sponsored According to two 2015 surveys, 62 percent of Americans do not have enough savings to handle an unexpected emergency, much less any long-term plans.