Annie’s Mailbox: Her mom or you? No question!

Dear Annie: My lady and I have been together for nine years, and we have a beautiful 7-year-old daughter.

We have had our own two-bedroom apartment for five years. A year ago, her mother fell ill. We decided to move her in with us to take care of her and drive her to her doctor appointments. Mind you, we did this even though I know the mother doesn’t like me at all.

Like any couple, we argue, but nothing too serious. The problem is, her mother gets in the middle of it and takes her daughter’s side. I can handle the fussing from my lady, but not her mother. It’s none of her business.

Two weeks ago, I overheard the mother tell her daughter that one of us has to move out: her or me. Since we all know she can’t take care of herself, I took it as Mom telling her daughter to get rid of me. Since that day, my lady has been distant. She barely speaks to me, there is little affection, and lovemaking has entirely disappeared. I hate to think she has taken her mother’s advice and will end this relationship. Annie, I love her with all of my heart. What should I do? – Confused

Dear Confused: The constant drip-drip-drip of criticism and pressure from Mom is wearing down your girlfriend’s ability to distinguish between what she wants and what Mom wants. Don’t hide what you know. Tell your girlfriend you overheard Mom saying to get rid of you. Let her know you love her dearly and don’t want to break up your home, especially since you have a young child who needs both of her parents. That relationship comes first. If Mom cannot deal with it, she is the one who should leave and hire a caregiver. Tell your lady we said so.