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Listening helps healing

I would like to tell Carla Amparan (“Why the cancer fuss?” – Oct. 12) to not tell people to shut up. She survived a bad diagnosis and she is lucky and has the right to be proud of herself. Surviving is the fuss.

I also had cancer. One year ago, I had major surgery. My outcome is good. I concentrated on getting the treatment I needed and getting through it. Some people do not want help. They want to deal with it alone and without what they feel is sympathy. I chose to tell my friends my diagnosis and what I would be going through. I did not expect sympathy, but I got the empathy I needed from my family and friends, and I am grateful for that.

I do not wear the diagnosis or results of my surgery as a badge of honor.

Cancer is an individual thing to go through. The important thing is to be there for those who need help when they want the help. Let them keep their dignity and control, but be available to listen, tell jokes and be a friend.

Pam Meyer

Spokane



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