Latest from The Spokesman-Review
Danielle Piscak, 22, stands with her Facebook page on a monitor behind Friday in her Parkland, Wash., living room. Piscak was one of dozens of women in the U.S. and England whose personal information was gleaned from Facebook and then used to hack into e-mail accounts by George Bronk, who lives in the Sacramento suburb of Citrus Heights. Bronk, 23, would then send nude pictures of them to everyone in their address book. (AP Photo/Elaine Thompson)
Question: Has a "Friend" or anyone else used your Facebook information against you?
My one other love is blogging. It's nearing obsolescence with the advent of Facebook and Twitter, but I still enjoy it. I want to keep at it. I'd miss it. Today I've put my Facebook Zoo Mates on notice I'm cutting way back. It has become an addiction I need to break. My "friends" count will probably dwindle. The real ones will stay. I hope. Yesterday I spent the afternoon unsubscribing to sites I'd joined for no really good reason. Linkedin. It's for business networking. I have nothing to offer or gain/Dogwalk Musings. More here.
Question: How have your social networking habits changed in the last 3 to 5 years?
Bloggy: Yes, it hurts to be unfriended, or even worse, unrelationshipped, especially if the unrelationship means you won't be getting sex with her anymore, when I think part of it is due to Facebook enslaving itself to the binary world of computer dorks. Have a third option: TIME OUT. “Mr_Bloggy has timed you out for 30 days.” It's a warning - knock whatever crap is bugging me or I'll finish the deal in a month. We all deserve a warning.
Question: Why do you unfriend someone? Have you ever been unfriended?
After a year at Facebook, I think I have figured it out. Facebook is real life soap opera … Or like an accident that is happening and even though you don’t want to look , you do. About 2 years ago, l actually I started out very limited. I had a family member who would send pictures and she was a member of MySpace and Facebook. So it was easier for me with dial up, to go there and look at all their pictures.. and not have to wait an hour for them to download. Since thing Face book has become a thing of joy and of sorrow. I have got to see my grandchildren by my children’s Facebook. I have reconnected with some of my grandchildren. Even got to see my latest Great Granddaughter Ava. I have more contact with some of my friends.. So it does have it’s positive side of it. But I have also seen part of my family fall apart thru Facebook. Heart breaking/Cis, From A Simple Mind. More here.
Question: Have you had a similar experience to Cis' re: your time on Facebook?
On her Facebook page, Hucks Online sidekick Cindy posts that she's "contemplating unfriending those who received Kindles for Christmas." Which means she'd have to unfriend moi. I received a Kindle. And am now enjoying Donald Miller's "Through Painted Deserts." Got it for $10 or so from Amazon. With a simple click that downloaded the book within 15 seconds. I'll probably re-read Thoreau's "Walden" next. It'll cost about 98 cents. You can get the whole Shakespeare library for 98 cents, too. Kindle, I believe, can store up to 1200 books. I'd better stop gushing now b/c Cindy might unfriend me at any minute.
Question: Do you have a Kindle?
OK, this is more than a month after the fact, but I didn't see it until one of my new Facebook Friends posted it on his wall today — the Top 30 under (age) 40 in the local area, as designated by North Idaho Business Journal. I'm posting it here because 2 of our regular commenters are listed among the up-and-coming business people locally, including JimmyMAC & CoeurGenX. You can see the list here.
Question: If you were to land on a list of Top Something-or-Others, what kind of list would it be?
Facebook Friend Darrell Kerby of Bonners Ferry notes that he will turn 60 this year and his older brother turned 65 last year. Darrell figures he has about 20 years left of life more or less, adding: "It is time to savor, relax, & enjoy. What should we savor, how should we relax and what should we enjoy? We now have the "freedom" to savor everything. These last few morsels of life will be best consumed by savoring, we no longer need to wait or work for it, it's here!" Darrell goes on to ask:
Question: What should we enjoy? What is not to enjoy?
- Wednesday Poll: A plurality of Hucks Nation connects socially online via Facebook. Which isn’t a surprise. 80 of 213 respondents (37.56%) said Facebook is one of the social networking tools they use. 62 of 213 (29.11%) said that they connect online via blogs. Only 23 of 213 (10.8%) said they connect via Twitter. Also, 31 (14.55%) said they don’t connect online, while 17 (7.98%) reported that they use other social networking.
- Today’s Poll: Which type of computer do you prefer for personal use?
Time Magazine has selected Facebook founder and CEO Mark Zuckerberg as its 2010 “Person of the Year.” Story here. (AP Photo/Time Magazine)
Question: How important is Facebook to you? Can you think of anyone more worthy of Time Magazine’s “Person of the Year” selection?
A pastor who said Facebook was a
“portal to infidelity” and told married church leaders to delete their
accounts or resign once testified that he had a three-way sexual
relationship with his wife and a male church assistant.
The Rev. Cedric Miller confirmed the information reported Saturday
by the Asbury Park Press of Neptune, which cited testimony he gave in a
criminal case in 2003. The relationship had ended by that time.
Miller gained national attention when he issued the Facebook
edict this week/KXLY. More here. H/T: Liz Arakelian.
This (“Pastor to church leaders: Delete Facebook accounts“) raises more holy questions than answers… My head is spinning!
- What if Jesus had a facebook page?
- What picture would he use?
- Do you poke Jesus or does he poke you?
- What happens if Jesus “unfriends” you?
- What if your not on Jesus’ wall?
- What if you delete one of Jesus’ comments by accident?
- What if you forget to “like” Jesus’ posts?
Question: Do you think Jesus would ‘friend’ you on Facebook?
A minister in Neptune, N.J., has told his married church leaders they must delete their Facebook accounts or resign their posts. The Rev. Cedric A. Miller, senior pastor at Living Word Christian Fellowship Church, says much of his pastoral counseling over the last 18 months has been for marital problems, including infidelity, because someone has met up with an old flame on Facebook/Jeanne DePaul, Lewiston Tribune Virtual Deadlines blog. More here.
Question: Does a Facebook account raise spectre of infidelity? And/or: Would you delete your Facebook accounty, if you had a leadership position in a church and your minister told you to do so?
Facebook unveiled a new messaging platform today that takes aim at one of the Internet’s first applications, e-mail. Although blogs had been speculating that Facebook would announce an e-mail service to rival Google Inc.’s Gmail and others, Facebook said e-mail was just one component of its plans. Declaring e-mail past its prime in the age of texts and instant messages, CEO Mark Zuckerberg (shown, left, in AP photo making announcement this AM in San Francisco) said the company doesn’t believe e-mail is going to be a modern messaging system/Associated Press. More here.
Question: Which do you use more for Internet messaging — e-mail or Facebook messaging?
Spokane creative agency 14Four has helped put together a social media sobriety test meant to stop Facebook or Twitter users from posting stupid remarks after partying.
The Spokane company developed the free software plug-in for Webroot, a Boulder, Colo.-based web security firm. The project stemmed from past work 14Four has done with Colorado ad agency TDA, the lead agency for Webroot.
The test’s tagline is “Nothing good happens online after 1 a.m.” The test can work on six social sites, including YouTube and MySpace. The tool also allows for adding custom websites.
The onscreen test can be set manually to force the user to complete a challenge before posting a message at preset times of the day or night. The extension has six challenges, selected at random, that force the person to answer or do something.
One challenge requires a person to keep the mouse cursor inside a moving
circle appearing on the screen. If the person can’t do that, the user
fails the test.
The challenge might also ask you to type the alphabet backwards, or use your mouse to guess how long 30 seconds is.
Jeff Oswalt, 14Four’s president, said his firm jumped at the idea when they were first asked by TDA to collaborate. “We saw it as an awesome idea. Plus we would be getting paid for work, which is also a great idea.”
Sirens & Gavels has a Facebook page! Check it out and ‘like’ it today.
A few people said it could serve as daily reminder to visit the blog, so I figured I’d gave it a try. I’ll be posting one or two items a day.
A link is at the top of the right rail.
I initially became a Facebooker (Facebookie? Facepusher?) the way many people my age do: I got e-mails from a couple of grandchildren asking me to “be a friend.” Mind you, it’s not that my grandchildren and I aren’t already friends. It’s that there is so much vanity and social climbing going on with Facebook. They should call it “Mebook,” because “me” is most of what it’s all about. Part of the purpose of the site is to acquire bragging rights on how many “friends” you can acquire and display on your page.You send messages to real friends and to absolute strangers asking them to be sudden friends whether you have ever heard of them before or not/Bill Hall, Lewiston Tribune. More here.
Question: What do you think of Bill’s analysis of MeBook, er, Facebook?
Moscow Minidoka: Dislike the new facebook/twitter icons. Poor design (too big, not incorporated well into existing HBO design). Integrate them better, or jettison them. As-is, they’re obnoxious. A better way to do this is to add these buttons after the jump. People who are prone to tweet/face these items can do so there, and the rest of us can look at a nicely designed front page.
Question: What do you think of the new Facebook/Twitter icons that were added to each Huckleberries Online post this afternoon?
Using Facebook is the online equivalent of staring at yourself in the mirror, according to a study. Those who spent more time updating their profile on the social networking site were more likely to be narcissists said researchers. Facebook provides an ideal setting for narcissists to monitor their appearance and how many “friends” they have, the study said, as it allows them to thrive on ‘shallow’ relationships while avoiding genuine warmth and empathy. They also tend to use the site for promoting themselves to friends or people they would like to meet, the study concluded/Mail Foreign Service. More here.
Question (for those who have Facebook accounts): Are you a narcissist?
Labor Day is right around the corner and so is the first day of school, the furnace is starting up in the morning and with a little luck some of the green tomatoes are finally turning red. So what you are doing this fall? What are you looking forward to? Is fall your favorite season? Here at the blog we’re branching out with the launch of a Hillyard Blog in late September. It will follow the same model as the South Perry blog and hopefully be just as successful. This coming Thursday the blog will be at the Farmers Market from 3-4:30 p.m. Feel free to visit - it’s always nice to chat at the bustling market. And there’s this: The Voices (the local section most of you get inside your Spokesman-Review on Thursdays) now has a Facebook page. Staff writer and fellow Voices reporter Lisa Leinberger is taking on that project - go ahead and send her a ‘like’ here.
Labor Day is right around the corner and so is the first day of school, the furnace is starting up in the morning and with a little luck some of the green tomatoes are finally turning red. So what you are doing this fall? What are you looking forward to? Is fall your favorite season?
Here at the blog we’re branching out with the launch of a Hillyard Blog in late September. It will follow the same model as the South Perry blog and hopefully be just as successful.
This coming Thursday the blog will be at the Farmers Market from 3-4:30 p.m. Feel free to visit - it’s always nice to chat at the bustling market.
And there’s this: The Voices (the local section most of you get inside your Spokesman-Review on Thursdays) now has a Facebook page. Staff writer and fellow Voices reporter Lisa Leinberger is taking on that project - go ahead and send her a ‘like’ here.
In this file photo taken Aug. 18, 2010, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg, right, talks about the social network site’s new localization services called Places during a news conference in Palo Alto, Calif. Facebook has rolled out its long-awaited location feature, Facebook Places, an application that lets users “check in” on their mobile phones so friends know where they’re hanging out and what they’re doing. Story here. (AP Photo/Tony Avelar, File)
Question: Do you plan to sign up for Facebook “Places” feature? Or do you consider it too intrusive?
On Facebook, Sidekick Cindy confesses to checking out her son Alex’s date’s Facebook profile page to get some idea re: the girl his boy was going to date. And she admitted feeling a little guilty that she had. But other moms responded she had done no wrong. Said one: “Oh, I am definitely going to cyberstalk all of my kids’ dates. That’s just good parenting!” And another: “You only have to feel guilty if you post her name and get everyone to also go check her out… And then allow everyone to discuss her flaws…” And still another: “No, I have three girls and it does not seem unreasonable to me.” I noticed that no men responded to the inquiry.
Question: Is it OK to check out the Facebook pages belonging to someone who is going to date a child of yours?
Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg talks about the social network site’s new privacy settings in Palo Alto, Calif
Dread of the unknown hung in the air as Lynn France typed two words into the search box on Facebook: the name of the woman with whom she believed her husband was having an affair.
Click. And there it was, the stuff of nightmares for any spouse, cuckolded or not. Wedding photos. At Walt Disney World, no less, featuring her husband (emphasis mine) literally dressed as Prince Charming. His new wife, a pretty blonde, was a glowing Sleeping Beauty, surrounded by footmen. AP Full story.
Oh ouch! Have you heard of other unpleasant discoveries made via Facebook?
Item: Vaughn Ward returns to Facebook after 7-week absence/Dan Popkey, Idaho Statesman
More Info: Ward’s return to Facebook on Monday has prompted dozens of comments, mostly supportive, including defenses of his campaign by his wife and mother and suggestions that he run again in 2012. Ward himself addresses the issue of plagiarism that helped sink his campaign. … Without naming him, Ward blames his former campaign manager, Ryan O’Barto, for cribbing from Obama and Pennsylvania congressional candidate Pat Meehan.
Question: Should Vaughn Ward run again for Congress in 2012?
Kamm: I finally found my place on ‘FaceBook’ last month and, of course, friended and was friended by family and friends. But now a strange thing has happened as I look for old friends and classmates. My page is busy with all kinds of people I haven’t thought about in decades. It’s a little emotional and bittersweet as I reconnect with people I knew but haven’t thought about. And it’s humbling that they want to connect with me. Sharing our stories, the ups and the downs, the high school sweethearts who are no longer a unit, the most likely to succeed who didn’t, old work friends who have fallen by the wayside, has caused some tears. There are some I haven’t answered yet; I need a break before I open those old feelings of who we are vs who we thought we would be.
Question: Have you had a good or bad experience reconnecting with old friends and high school classmates via Facebook?
Kerri Thoreson, via Facebook (last night): After a couple of years on FB, this is the most incredible night. My niece is doing a play by play of her sister’s labor and impending delivery in a Utah hosptial. The baby will be my sister Lynne’s first grandchild and my other two sisters and I are following the progress on FB. Real life, real time. (Update: Great nephew made his arrival, in his own good time. His mommy is doing well and his great aunties are all pooped from the late night, early morning excitment.)
Question: How has cyberspace and the evolving social network enabled you to take part in far-off family events that you never dreamed possible a decade ago?
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg just dropped what, for some, might be a bombshell. Appearing at the Nielsen Consumer 360 Conference, she announced that e-mail will soon be going away in favor of FaceBook. Her logic is that teenagers indicate the trends of tomorrow, and only 11% of teenagers currently check e-mail daily. You can listen/see her comments intact on YouTube here:
Personally, I think Ms. Sandberg is a well-paid spokesperson for FaceBook, and not necessarily being 100% accurate in her assertions. Granted, FaceBook does connect people in extraordinary ways as she states in her speech. What she doesn’t address, however, is the lack of privacy in communicating via FaceBook versus e-mail, since e-mail is capable of strong encryption and other security technologies.
The other possible factor that may play into her assertion is that most teenagers I know have to be taught about how to properly use secure e-mail in a business environment. Most teenagers do not seem to recognize the difference between business e-mail and personal e-mail and think nothing of using e-mail at work for their personal messaging.
I am also aware that some other system administrators have banned the use of FaceBook within the boundaries of their networks, for various reasons, security among them.
Perhaps in the future, as new software technology becomes accessible to FaceBook users, they will have a robust and secure form of e-mail for users. However, until then, e-mail is still atop the pile of services that people will continue to use. Of course, your opinions may differ.
If you have signed up to use Facebook, you’re probably familiar with the way the online social media format plays social matchmaker. Not in a romantic way, but by suggesting people you might want to add to your contact list. People who are friends with your friends. People who have some kind of connection to you.
Occasionally, this works. You see a familiar face, an old friend, a co-worker, a former classmate, you didn’t know had signed up and it’s nice to add them to your contact list.
At other times, you are prompted to to catch up with an old friend. People to whom you are already connected but may not interact with on a regular basis.
Sometimes this is a good thing, as well. It reminds you to check in with someone you like. Someone who is probably as busy as you are. Someone you might like to talk to more often.
But then, occasionally, an unsettling thing happens. Occasionally, a face pops up that is startling. A face you can’t reach out and touch no matter how much you might like to.
In the last year, three people I knew and liked died. They were all too young, all under 50. All three were Facebook friends.
At least once a month, when I log on I’m prompted to get back in touch with one of them.
At first, I cringed whenever one of the faces popped up on my computer screen. I was reminded again, in a most impersonal way, that they were gone forever. One more time the sad story behind each death passed through my mind.
But now, each time I see their photos, I take a minute and I reconnect with their memory. I stop and remember a time we spoke or laughed. I think about the spouses, the mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters and the children left behind. I honor them.
I’m sure this is not what Facebook intended, but after thinking about it, I decided to accept the random gift of memory. To be grateful for it.
My friends were here with us and each led a rich and productive life. They worked and played and loved. They built careers and relationships. All three battled the disease that eventually killed them with dignity and grace and amazing courage. Now, through no fault of their own, they are gone
But gone doesn’t mean forgotten.
So, when I open my computer, when I log on to Facebook to see what friends and family are up to, or to post a photo and update my own profile, I glance at the top of the page.
I make a new friend. Sometimes I reconnect with an old friend. And once
in a while I take a moment to think about a friend I will never see
Cheryl-Anne Millsap is a freelance columnist for The Spokesman-Review. Her audio essays can be heard on Spokane Public Radio and public radio stations across the country. She is the author of “Home Planet: A Life in Four Seasons” and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Moscow Minidoka: Here’s a comparison for you: Facebook is like “fellowship hour” after church. Everyone is polite, you avoid controversial topics, and you try not to fall asleep while Mr. Johnson tells you about the new fence he’s putting up this summer. But HBO is like a Saturday night BBQ where alcohol is served - everyone gets a bit loose, some people are funny, some people are annoying, some people embarrass themselves. I’d rather be at the party and leave fellowship hour to those who prefer not to step on toes (or to have their toes stepped on). … it’s fun and new for about a year. Then it’s just as boring and annoying as email, and you’ll start to wonder why you found it so neat when you first created your account.
Question: I’ve wondered the same thing that MM brought up here — that Facebook will lose altitude and go the way of e-mail. What do you think?