Quitting
Giving up is just something we’re not supposed to do.
Sometimes, however, I wonder if some things are just not meant to be, no matter how hard we try. Is it possible that because of our determination to stick to something – a sport, a hobby, a job, perhaps a relationship – do we end up missing out on other opportunities?
How do we know when to keep our noses to the grindstone or
when it’s appropriate to stop and try an alternative approach or perhaps
something completely different?
Los Angeles Times staff writer Lisa Boone wrote about this dilemma in a column, “When is it OK to let kids be quitters?” She cited a 2005 statistic from the Citizenship Through Sports Alliance, which found in 2005 that 70 percent of youth stop playing sports by the time they’re 14.
Boone wrote about her 8-year-old son, Bob, who had begged to
play tackle football. But the practices were too intense and the coaching less
than stellar that just before the season ended, her son expressed his desire to leave the
team.
So she interviewed several experts, including Billy Strean, professor at the
Moms, dads and other guardians need to ask themselves why they signed up their children for a particular activity in the first place. If that goal isn’t met, then perhaps it’s not worth sticking it out.
“Refining their skills does not speak to the joy and relaxation
that makes us people," Braun said. "It makes for a
burned-out, deluded kid."
Have you ever let your child quit a sport or activity? How do you teach your child the values if consistency and commitment while at the same time knowing when it's healthier to stop and try something else?