Dear Ann Landers: My parents just celebrated their 50th anniversary. They said “absolutely no” to a big party, so my husband and I decided to present them with a nice check instead. They refused to accept it.
I am an only child who never went without. My parents are still very generous to me and my family. We never refused any gift they have given us over the years. In fact, we let them know we were delighted and grateful that they were so generous. We thought this was a perfect opportunity to return some of that generosity.
My mother had mentioned that they needed new furniture, and we thought they could put our check toward a purchase. We were dismayed when they refused. Shouldn’t they have accepted our gift graciously? I have always believed it is more blessed to give than to receive. I am terribly unhappy about this. Any suggestions? - Rocklin, Calif.
Dear Rocklin: Trying to force a check on your folks was a mistake. Many parents feel uncomfortable accepting money from their children.
Are you a good cook? Can you bake? Invite them over for a special meal or take them to dinner at an upscale restaurant that they would probably not go to on their own and treat them to a concert or a play afterward. They’ll love it.
Dear Ann Landers: I have a “how we met” story that’s a little different. I hope you will print it.
During high school and college I often helped out at my church by playing the organ. One Sunday I was running late and got a bit flustered. Somehow I went straight through a red light without even thinking. A patrol car was sitting right on the corner, and the officer stopped me on the other side of the intersection. I knew I didn’t have a prayer of getting out of the ticket, and I was right.
When I showed up in court, the police officer who ticketed me was there - smiling. I was extremely agitated. And then, to my surprise, he asked me out. We clicked at once. I knew that night he was my dream man. A year later, we were married. We are expecting our second child soon and are very happy.
Believe it or not, Ann, we still argue about whether he should have given me that ticket. - Proud To Be Married to Pennsylvania’s Finest
Dear Proud: If he hadn’t ticketed you, you probably would not have seen him again, so kwitcherbeefin’. It turned out to be a blessing.
Dear Ann Landers: I thought you might like this little poem that I have kept for more than 20 years. Perhaps it will make people who are in a hurry stop and think. It certainly had that effect on me. - Edward in Winter Haven, Fla.
Dear Edward: The poem worked wonders with me. It slowed me down for the entire day. It also brought to mind that old-fashioned adage, “Haste makes waste.” Thanks for your contribution to this space.
He had the fastest car in town,
Or so he always said.
We’ll never know if this was true,
Because you see, he’s dead.
He made all trips in record time;
Of this he always raved.
We wonder what he’s doing now
With all the time he saved.
Gem of the Day: Have you noticed that the person who is always complaining about the way the ball bounces is invariably the one who dropped it?
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