His baby’s momma’s moved in – Should she keep dating him?

Q: I am a 30-year-old woman in love with a 22-year-old man. We have a really good relationship. We tell each other everything. We’ve been together for more than a year and haven’t had any problems until now. Two weeks ago, his 2-year-old daughter and her mother moved in with him. They don’t have anywhere else to go. He told me that nothing’s going to change, but I know it is. I’d never seen her as a threat until now. He doesn’t invite me over to his house anymore, because he said he doesn’t want to do anything in front of them to disrespect them. My heart is telling me to stay and work it out, but my mind is telling me to leave. Should I leave or should I stay?

Mia: He’s living with his baby-momma and won’t let you come to the house anymore? Leave now. Find a man with less baggage.

Steve: The heart and mind often war over romantic relationships. In this case, follow your mind.

Q: I am a recently separated man in my mid-30s who takes the regional rail lines to Center City Philadelphia for work. There is a woman that I usually see on my train who is gorgeous, confident and probably so out of my league, but we have nice conversations. It has gotten to the point where I find myself taking the train at times I don’t have to, just to talk to her. I don’t know how to read her interest and would love to ask her out to lunch sometime. Any suggestions?

Steve: Yes. Ask her out to lunch. If she says no, don’t take it personally and continue your friendship. She might say yes later.

Mia: She probably already thinks it’s odd that you’re always on the same train. I would ask her out so you can cut your losses (and fix your schedule) if she’s not interested.

Q: I am a woman who has not been with a man in about eight years. I am so tired of being alone, but I cannot seem to get out and meet a man. The reason is I’m a one-man woman, and when I find someone that I like, I care for them for years after we have parted. I need both of you to tell me something that I could do to get my life back. Sometimes my heart feels so heavy because I am so stressed out and lonely.

Steve: Carrying a torch for someone for eight years is not healthy, even if your ex is Denzel Washington. I suggest counseling combined with some social activities that allow you to meet other people. There are lots of things happening out there for singles.

Mia: Swoon. If my ex was Denzel Washington, I don’t think I’d ever let another man touch me again. No one could compare to that much hotness. Still, since the men you’re obsessing over are probably much lamer, you should try and get out there. Also, don’t think about love so much, just try to make some new friends. That might bring you greater happiness.