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It’s been 3 years, and she hasn’t met his folks



 (The Spokesman-Review)
Steve and Mia Knight Ridder

Q: I’ve been dating a man for about three years. He’s very kind, quite respectable and has a good job. But I don’t really know him. He’s met my family, but I’ve never met any of his family or friends. When I ask him about this, he always has some excuse. Do you think he’s hiding something?

Steve: Oh, I dunno, maybe a wife and four kids? If you haven’t met any of his friends or family after three years, it’s fair to say he’s hiding something. My guess is it’s something big.

Mia: Or maybe he just has really nerdy computer-geek friends and is embarrassed for you to meet them? Nah … my bet is a closet full of dead wives.

Q: I’ve been happily married for 12 years. Back in April my wife began working eight to 10 hours a day. She began avoiding me both emotionally and physically. Our sex life trickled down to once a month. When I asked her if she was cheating, she said she could never do such a thing.

In June, my wife quit her job and suddenly her passion more than returned. She wants sex every day, sometimes two or three times a day. But for the past two months I’ve had this dream about my wife cheating. It’s driving me crazy. I have to know if she cheated because my wife is set to go back to work in the fall.

Steve: You could contact the “Cheaters” TV show and have detectives follow her when she returns to work. Or you could take her word for it that she was faithful. Personally, I’d take her word on it. But I am curious about what kind of job would leave her exhausted with no sex drive when she’s working and insatiable when she isn’t.

Mia: Maybe work left her emotionally and sexually drained? (Although working as a sex columnist has the opposite effect on me …). I’d just celebrate the sexual rebirth in your relationship and go with it. Maybe you could get her to do some kinky fantasy stuff while you’re at it.

Q: I ended a three-year relationship eight months ago. Recently, my ex invited me to a concert. I ended up spending the night at her place. The next morning I left with hopes of resuming our relationship. So I call her to ask if I could see her again, and she says she is dating someone and the other night was a mistake.

I asked her why she didn’t take the other guy to the concert and her reply was, “I didn’t want to take him.”

What should I do? Why did she do this to me? I really want her back in my life!

Mia: Sweetie, haven’t you heard of retread sex? That’s all this was. She obviously isn’t looking to start things up again. Forget her and move on, if you can.

Steve: Why ask why? Just remain friends with her, stay in contact and hope it happens again.