He gets no love since she got her new tattoo

Q: I’m 26 and my 19-year-old girlfriend recently got a tattoo with my name on it. Now she seems to want to be apart more … is it me, or is this confusing? We were always together before she got the tattoo. Now she would rather be out with her friends more or with her mother. Any idea what’s going on?

Steve: Maybe she replaced you with a tattoo. I hope for her sake you have a common name like Bob or Jim, because now she’ll have to date guys that match her tat.

Mia: She’d rather be with her mother? I’d say this relationship is headed for the crapper.

Q: I have been seeing this guy for almost two years. Recently I found out that he leads a secret life, hanging out in seedy gay hook-up joints! Did I do something wrong??

Mia: You did nothing wrong. Your boyfriend is gay. And a liar. Neither of which makes for a very healthy relationship. I would kick him to the curb immediately.

Steve: There’s more than a few guys living on the down low, honey. I also recommend a test for the HIV virus, as I would any time a sexual partner strays.

Q: You printed a letter recently from a husband who said he’d been married for 11 years and got no love or affection from his wife. The husband said that if things don’t change, he sees himself straying. I believe this letter was written by my husband. I want to tell you my side. Yes, we have been married for 11 years. As for the going to church part, that was a promise my husband made to me when we got married (part of the reason I married him in the first place). It went out the window when I said “I do.” He says he sees himself straying. He already has strayed. He thinks I’m too stupid to know, and he’s not man enough to admit it. My husband wants to paint me as the bad guy. But he betrayed my trust a long time ago. We have been to counselors, but as soon as a counselor or therapist agrees with me, my husband doesn’t want to go anymore. You are probably asking, why not divorce him? I presented him with papers. He would not sign them. You know why? He knows there is not another woman who would put up with his nonsense. He destroyed this. He needs to leave it or fix it.

Steve: Why leave it to him? Take command of your own life. If he won’t fix things, leave him.

Mia: Why don’t you both stop writing letters to us and talk to each other? And if he’s that big a bum, dump his sorry self.