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Annie’s Mailbox: It’s kind to RSVP and keep your word

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Dear Annie: Why is it that so many guests either don’t know what RSVP means or respond affirmatively and then don’t show up?

My daughter planned a lovely wedding. Thirteen guests didn’t show, and we had to pay for their meals. One couple played golf instead, and another decided to attend a shuffleboard tournament. Another guest showed up without the date she insisted she’d be bringing. Either these people are ignorant about the costs of no-shows or they don’t care. If you RSVP for an event and can’t make it, for heaven’s sake, call and say so. – Upset in Michigan

Dear Michigan: We’re with you. Too many people think “RSVP” means respond if you feel like it. Anyone who has had to pay for no-shows understands that it is simple consideration to tell your hosts whether you are coming or not, and then keep your word.

Dear Annie: In response to “Not Lazy and Married to Her Son,” I, too, take over when I visit my son and daughter-in-law. Every year, I use my one-week vacation to do all the housework, washing and cooking and take care of their five children in order to give my daughter-in-law a break. My visit gives her time to relax and have her hair and nails done or go to the mall without dragging the children along. She and my son are able to enjoy a romantic dinner in a restaurant. And I get to spend time with my grandchildren.

My own mother-in-law would take my children one weekend a month to give her son and me some time alone. I passed this along to my daughter-in-law, and I know it has made a lasting bond between us. – Pittsburgh

Dear Pitt.: Your thoughtfulness and your daughter-in-law’s appreciation have created a solid relationship for the two of you and wonderful memories for your grandchildren. How lovely!

Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611.

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