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DEAR MISS MANNERS – Is it OK to give a gift and sign your name and deceased spouse’s name?
GENTLE READER – In a word, no. Miss Manners understands that you mean to express the lovely sentiment that the spouse is still with you in spirit, but that it not the effect you will achieve. Instead, the recipient will think, “But I thought he was dead!”
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