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Fix offensive photos in album

Kathy Mitchell/Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: I was divorced 18 years ago. I do not have a good relationship with my ex-wife, who left me for another man. Over the years, she has encouraged our children to dislike my current wife, to whom I have been married for 17 years and who helped raise my kids.

Here’s the problem. For Christmas, my son gave us an album with photos of our new grandson. The album also contains many pictures of my ex-wife, but only one of my wife and me, and it’s the size of a postage stamp. Could they not have created an album without all the photos of their mother? (I think it’s even possible that my ex-wife put the album together.)

Should I ignore this? Should I ask that they consider our feelings in the future? We don’t want to display an album with pictures of my ex. – Insulted Parents

Dear Insulted: This was insensitive of your son, but probably not ill intended, so try to forgive him. You can choose whether or not to display any gift, but please don’t complain about it. If there is a way to remove the photos of your ex-wife or to have the pictures reset to exclude her, do so. Then ask your son for a picture of his family so you can display it in a prominent place in your home. If he mentions that you already have one in the album, you can tell him why you would prefer another.