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Annie’s Mailbox: Tough to commit to girlfriend who won’t cuddle

Kathy Mitchell

Dear Annie: I have been with the same woman for six years. Now she has asked me to marry her. We get along terrifically, but when it comes to bedtime, there is no closeness. She says she can’t cuddle with me because she’s been hurt so many times in the past. We sleep with her three big dogs in between us.

This doesn’t seem fair to me. If you’re in love, isn’t it only natural to want to hold and cuddle the one you marry? I’m terrified of making the wrong choice. Please help. – No Cuddles in California

Dear California: Not everyone likes to cuddle, but someone who puts three dogs between you in bed isn’t even trying. More importantly, you need to be compatible on this issue. If your girlfriend has been so hurt in the past that she cannot show affection, suggest that she get counseling. Otherwise, we don’t recommend you spend the rest of your life wishing things were different with your partner. And should you decide she’s not the one, please have the decency to tell her so you both can move on.

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