Friend’s husband seeking phone sex

Dear Annie: My wife of 50 years told me that a longtime friend has called her twice trying to have phone sex. I exploded! She told me not to say anything because it would ruin our friendship with this couple.

I confronted him anyway and told him he disrespected my wife, me and all women in general. He did not deny what he had done. Frankly, I can’t blame him too much, considering his wife of 50 years.

Still, as far as I’m concerned, he totally crossed the line, and our friendship is over. My wife, however, continues to associate with both of them. What do you think? – Mad in the Bluegrass

Dear Mad: We think you threw out quite a zinger about the man’s wife. We don’t care what she is like. It doesn’t justify his hitting on another woman, especially one who is married to a good friend. That’s a double betrayal.

We will give him one possible excuse, however. If he’s been married for 50 years, he is probably in his 70s or older, and it’s possible he is displaying early signs of dementia, which include loss of inhibition and personality changes. Please suggest he see his doctor for a checkup. As long as your wife has no interest in this fellow and wants to remain friends with his wife, it’s probably OK. If you notice changes in that direction, however, don’t hesitate to address it.

Dear Annie: Tell “Lonely for Friends” to check the women’s clubs in her area. These are national philanthropic organizations that contribute time and money to various worthy community causes. The more involved I became the more people I met. It is an opportunity to do good while making friends.

I am sure “Lonely” would be welcomed into her local club. She can check online at www.gfwc.org to locate one in her area. – Been There, California