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Miss Manners: Give pushy person in line verbal shove

Judith Martin Universal Uclick

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is a kind and yet firm comment that I can say to the person in line after me at the cash register, who invariably comes and stands next to my elbow while I’m using my credit/debit card?

I wish to say, “Back off, lady,” or “Would you please get your nose out of my business?” But I simply can’t confront people like that, and I know that it would be rude.

GENTLE READER: Take back your card and ask the cashier, “Is there any way we can cancel my transaction so this lady can go ahead of me? She appears to be in a hurry, and perhaps it’s important.”

Whether your interloper reacts with annoyance or proper embarrassment, Miss Manners assures you she will have taken a step back, during which time you may cancel your request and re-tender your payment.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was hoping for some clarity on how to handle returning phone calls in this age of caller ID. My feeling is when I receive a missed call from an unknown caller, I am under no obligation to return the call if they do not leave a message.

My husband claims that due to the prevalence of caller ID, the missed call and residual phone number are message enough. Of course, if a known family member or friend calls, I will return their call without hesitation. This is really only in regards to unknown phone numbers.

GENTLE READER: Not every missed call is important, particularly in these days of relatively inexpensive long-distance rates and cellular telephones that make accidental calls seemingly on their own.

It is Miss Manners’ conclusion that if a caller (even a known caller) does not leave a message, it is reasonable to assume it is because he or she had nothing – or at least nothing pressing – to say. Such non-calls may be returned or not at the receiver’s pleasure.

Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com.
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