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Annie’s Mailbox: Pay a visit to ill, isolated relatives

Marcy Sugar and Kathy Mitchell Creators Syndicate

Dear Annie: I am one of 12 siblings, but the only one with multiple sclerosis. For two years, I have been without work, so I sit here daily, hoping for a visit. I know my siblings are busy, because I see photographs on social media of their many travels and moments I can only imagine having.

I’d like to ask them when was the last time they came to my home? When their friends ask, “How is your brother?” what do they say? I’d like to think it’s uncomfortable for them.

My purpose in writing is to urge not only my siblings, but all of your readers to “act” with the gift of time. Give a moment to someone else. It will give purpose to my life if others take up this challenge, and it will change the giver’s life, as well.

It is not in my character to complain. I am hopeful and dream of a miracle. My wife says I am the miracle. I am so blessed by the people who have come into my life. I can’t begin to pay it forward, so I pray it forward. – Hoping for Better Times

Dear Hoping: We appreciate your heartfelt letter. Please, folks, if you have friends or relatives who are ill, isolated or would benefit from some company, pick up the phone today and ask when it would be convenient to visit. You cannot imagine the joy it will bring.

Dear Annie: When I had to move Mom into a nursing wing, I found half a dozen photo albums and boxes of loose pictures. She and I spent days going through them, labeling the ones she wanted to keep. We pared down the albums to two and pinned her favorite family pictures to a wall collage where she could see them from her bed. This warmed and personalized the room, and best of all, we had happy memories to talk about and share with family, nurses and other visitors. – Glad We Didn’t Wait

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