Ask Mr. Dad: Sometimes dreams aren’t sweet at all
Dear Mr. Dad: My 6-year-old daughter has nightmares at least a few times every week. We’ve talked to our pediatrician, but he says that nightmares are pretty normal at this age. The doctor may not be concerned, but my wife and I are. How can we help our daughter?
A: Your doctor is right – nightmares are pretty normal, affecting 10 to 50 percent of kids 6 and younger. But that doesn’t make it any easier on you when your child wakes up screaming in the middle of the night. Before we talk about how to help your daughter, you need to figure out exactly what’s going on. Is she having nightmares or night terrors? They sound similar but are actually very different.
Nightmares generally happen in the last half of sleep – 2 a.m. and later. Your child will wake up with a clear memory of a scary dream, will be able to talk about it, and may be afraid to go back to sleep. It’s not clear what causes nightmares, but they’re often associated with something the child has seen or is worried about.
Night terrors, however, tend to happen in first few hours after falling asleep. The child may thrash, kick, moan, or scream for 10-30 minutes. Her eyes may be wide open, but she’s basically unconscious. The good news is that she’ll go back to sleep and will have no memory of the incident. The bad news is that night terrors are really scary to watch and there’s very little you can do.
Here are few things you can do to help:
What Not to Do
While nightmares may be associated with emotional distress, they – and night terrors – are often random events. Reassurance and support from you are usually enough to help your child until she outgrows the problem. However, if the nightmares or night terrors affect her ability to function during waking hours, or if you suspect that they’re causing any health problems, consult her doctor right away.
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