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Spokane, Washington  Est. May 19, 1883

Annie’s Mailbox: Smelly men deserve kind invites, as well

By Marcy Sugar And Kathy Mitchell Creators Syndicate

Dear Annie: You printed a letter from “Wondering,” who asked why older men smell bad, don’t change their clothes and live in filthy homes. You mentioned it could be the lack of a female presence – someone who used to take care of these things.

My husband suddenly had this problem of a bad odor. He has impeccable hygiene, showering every day, sometimes twice a day. He wears clothing once before it goes into the laundry. We finally figured out that he was taking too much fish oil along with an antidepressant that had been increasing how much he would sweat. He still takes the fish oil, but at a much smaller dose, and the problem has gone away. My brother also had an odor problem, but I think it was due to smoking, poor dental care and forgetting that wool sweaters benefit from a trip to the dry cleaners every so often. He lived alone for 10 years after his divorce. His house was a total mess.

A gentle conversation with these men asking how they are doing, a suggestion to get checkups with their doctor to see if there is a physical reason and be screened for depression could help. Visiting the dentist may have been neglected. Say that you are telling them these things because you care about them. Offer to show them how to do laundry properly and say that they need to shower more. Take their things to the cleaners when you are going anyway. It can’t hurt and it may be the first time these guys have had these gentle kindnesses done for them in a long time. Then invite them over for dinner, stink and all. Be a friend. – Wife with Sweat-Smelling Hubby

Dear Wife: Thank you for your compassionate and sensible response.