Bad timing for movie

Our culture struggles with examples of healthy intimate relationships. Super Bowl halftime ads tackle domestic violence. Colleges finally respond to escalating rapes on campus. Sex trafficking with teens in the U.S., and globally, is increasing. Yet, Hollywood is premiering a new movie on Valentine’s weekend that glorifies sexual violence and domination. Really?! There is another name for exchanging economic rewards for golden handcuffs.

I understand the needs for novelty, playfulness, vulnerability and risk-taking within relationships. But, what’s made unquestioning obedience, threats and female degradation both scary and hot? This reminds me of the analogy of the boiled frog. Subtle shifts in the water temperature cook this amphibian that would have quickly jumped out from hotter waters.

Let’s redefine this fascination with “bondage” as being a BOND (a love connection) with AGE (growing together over time). This Valentine’s weekend, take a real risk. Enjoy an intimate conversation with your sweetie. Explore new ways to deepen your relationship that are respectful, as well as mutually satisfying.

Susie Leonard Weller

Liberty Lake