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EndNotes

The vigil keepers

When my husband was in surgery Tuesday, my sister and mom showed up in the surgery center waiting room, even though I'd insisted earlier in the day that I would be fine waiting alone.

The surgery was not a major one, though Tony was put out for it,  and he was expected to be out in an hour or so.

But show up they did -- with lunch. My sister knows my favorite treat is french fries and she had a bagful for me. So we sat in the waiting room eating a fast-food lunch, talking and laughing and planning out the rest of the busy summer because of many family visitors expected.

Later, I was so happy they had arrived, despite my assurances I would be OK. I was and would have been, but it was kind and comforting to have them wait with me.

I realized that one of the best things you can do for people you know well is hold vigil with them in a surgery waiting room. It also helps to have other "ears" when the doctor comes out with the surgery report.

 



Spokesman-Review features writer Rebecca Nappi, along with writer Catherine Johnston of Olympia, Wash., discuss here issues facing aging boomers, seniors and those experiencing serious illness, dying, death and other forms of loss.