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Things you seldom ask about aging…

AP Photo/The Anchorage Daily News, Fran Durner

Roy and Marcia Zahrobsky, 95 and 90 respectively, have been married for 70 years. It was
AP Photo/The Anchorage Daily News, Fran Durner Roy and Marcia Zahrobsky, 95 and 90 respectively, have been married for 70 years. It was "love at first sight," said Marcia. They now live in separate rooms at the Prestige Care and Rehabilitation Center in east Anchorage, Alaska. The couple came to Anchorage in 1949.

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The picture is an AP Photo/The Anchorage Daily News, Fran Durner

 

Roy and Marcia Zahrobsky, 95 and 90 respectively, have been married for 70 years. It was "love at first sight," said Marcia. They now live in separate rooms at the Prestige Care and Rehabilitation Center in east Anchorage, Alaska. The couple came to Anchorage in 1949. Why, after all those years, do they sleep in separate rooms?

Having had some experience in such things, I initially wondered if the care center involved encouraged or otherwise promoted the idea of Roy and Marcia sleeping in separate beds. I know a care center right here in Spokane who, for whatever reason, has unspoken rules and regulations about their customers having sex, which I'll concede isn't the same as sleeping in the same bed, but being in the same bed helps, I am told.

Of course, there is the issue that, when sleeping in separate beds, the care facility perhaps would charge the couples a double fee, since they take up two rooms, or perhaps not.

There is another side to this story, for my inlaws, who are well up into their 80's, still sleep in the same bed with my blessings and encouragement. My grandparents, who lived well up into their 80's, slept in the same bed throughout their entire lives together. Isn't that what marriage is about?

What about you? When you get old, funky and grumpy, the Polident generation if you will, will you continue to sleep in the same bed as your partner/spouse? What, if anything, would encourage you to sleep in separate beds?



Dave

 



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