Take a swing at the invitation – you might just have a good time!

Dear Harriette: My husband is taking a golfing trip. The wife of one of his friends is going as well because she plays golf. He invited me, but I don’t play. I don’t want to refuse the invitation, but what is he thinking? I don’t want to run around all day being his caddy. At the same time, you don’t refuse an invitation from your husband. If I go, do I have to learn to golf? I don’t know how you are supposed to interact on a sporting trip. — Margaret, Denver, Colo.

Dear Margaret: Take a deep breath and calm down. Your husband may simply want to include you in what he enjoys so much, now more than ever since his friend’s wife is joining the party. Be a good sport and gladly accept his invitation.

Instead of assuming the worst, namely that you will be stuck in an awful situation, think positively and be proactive. Ask your husband about the range of activities available where you are staying. Very often golf courses are near or on properties that also offer, say, spa treatments. Perhaps you can indulge in other treats while the rest of the crew hits the links. Contact the wife of your husband’s friend and ask her for recommendations. And don’t brush off the notion of golf lessons. Go for it. Take a lesson right away and try out the sport. You may enjoy playing, especially if you relax and just let yourself have fun. I doubt your husband expects you to be his caddy, but you may want to go out one day to watch the group play a round.