While husband’s at war, wife’s making love

Dear Diane: My husband, “Joe,” is a soldier deployed in Iraq. He has been there for more than a year. Recently, the Army let him come home on emergency leave to bury his mother. He was home for about a week.

Yesterday I discovered I am pregnant. The baby could be Jack’s, but it could also be the baby of my lover “Jerry.” I started seeing Jerry about a month after Jack left for Iraq. I was feeling very lonely and needed the company of a man.

I’m considering keeping the baby and not telling Joe about Jerry. I have a financially stable life with Joe, and the baby will get free health care. Jerry is currently between jobs and lives with two roommates.

I haven’t told anyone about my pregnancy, not even Joe or Jerry. How should I proceed?

— Distressed In Ft. Dix

Dear Distressed:

You sicken me.

You didn’t sleep with Jerry out of loneliness. It was lust, pure and simple. Your husband was only gone for a MONTH. Who are you trying to bulldoze here?

There are more than 130,000 troops in Iraq. Many of those troops have been gone a year or more. Tens of thousands of those troops have loving, LOYAL, committed spouses waiting at home for them.

What’s your problem? I’ll tell you. You are a spoiled, self-absorbed little girl who only cares about herself. You disgrace yourself and the commitment of every military spouse.

And how dare you even think of deceiving your husband by making him support a child that may be the product of your adulterous and shameful behavior!

Joe needs a Real Woman he can count on and believe in. You are not that woman.