Sense & Sensitivity: Read between lines … then best move on

Wed., Nov. 29, 2006

Harriette Cole United Feature Syndicate

Dear Harriette: I have been sort of going out with a guy for two months. I met him at a mutual friend’s party, and we hit it off. I like him, but I don’t like what he considers dating.

He text messages or IMs me throughout the day when I’m at work. I’ve asked him to give me some space at work, because I don’t want to be in a position where my boss is looking over my shoulder. But, get this. In the evening, he disappears. He doesn’t call me after 5 p.m. At first, he invited me on dates for the weekend. Now, on the few occasions he asks me out, it’s before work or at lunchtime. This is getting weird, don’t you think? — Bree, Queens, N.Y.

Dear Bree: I think he’s married, or at least deeply involved in another relationship. I’m sure you should walk away. Stop responding to his messages. Block his e-mail address at work and move on. No need to confront him. He’s already shown his cards.

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